I Hate Today
My best friend called before I left for school this morning to tell me our friend Adam Hunter Perez was killed Friday in New York.
Adam was a dear, dear person. He was friends with everyone, from every social group. He was fun to be around, goofy, charming, sweet... you could attach any positive adjective to him and it would apply. I never heard him be mean or cruel to anyone - that just wasn't him.
I hadn't seen Adam since high school. My yearbook has a photo of him standing in our radio station group photo - he wasn't a DJ, he just felt like getting out of class and having his picture taken, so we stuck him in the back with us before our supervisor noticed.
Adam was hard to keep up with. He was a social butterfly, and judging by the packed church this morning, he hadn't changed. He was a rare, beautiful being, and I know he will be missed terribly by thousands of people.
I'll get back to being MoxieGrrrl later. Maybe after my class tonight, but I may just want to get home, get into comfy pajamas, and have a few drinks.
Adam was a dear, dear person. He was friends with everyone, from every social group. He was fun to be around, goofy, charming, sweet... you could attach any positive adjective to him and it would apply. I never heard him be mean or cruel to anyone - that just wasn't him.
I hadn't seen Adam since high school. My yearbook has a photo of him standing in our radio station group photo - he wasn't a DJ, he just felt like getting out of class and having his picture taken, so we stuck him in the back with us before our supervisor noticed.
Adam was hard to keep up with. He was a social butterfly, and judging by the packed church this morning, he hadn't changed. He was a rare, beautiful being, and I know he will be missed terribly by thousands of people.
I'll get back to being MoxieGrrrl later. Maybe after my class tonight, but I may just want to get home, get into comfy pajamas, and have a few drinks.
by MG at 5:13 PM
20 Comments:
Moxie,
Really sorry to hear this. My best wishes go out to his family, yourself and your friends.
Very sad.
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Moxie...I'm sorry for your loss.
No way to place any karma back into the universe at such a loss. Sounds like a tragedy all around. And as a parent, I can only guess as to the gravity of the weight on the shoulders of these. The heart, wrenched spills. My thoughts are with you.
So sorry. Baruch dayan emmes.
Oh Mox, I'm so sorry for your loss. That's so tragic.
My most sincere condolences, Mox. RIP Adam. It sounds like you will be missed terribly in the lives that you touched.
I appreciate everyone's good thoughts, but I feel strange being offered condolences. Yes, he was my friend and I will miss him and continue to think of him now and then like I have over the past 13 years since we left high school, but I would prefer to ask for everyone to just remember to tell those people you think are just awesome how awesome they are.
If you feel the need to do something more for Adam's memory, his obit mentioned the following:
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Adam's memory to the Susan G. Komen Foundation, P.O. Box 650309, Dallas, Texas 75265-0309 (Tel. 888-888-3317), or to Broadway Cares-Equity Fights Aids, 165 W. 46th St., Suite 1300, New York, N.Y. 10036 (Tel. 212-840-0770, FAX 212-8400551).
The original link to the obit is here:
http://www.legacy.com/starledger/LegacySubPage2.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonId=15734768
I see that the Daily Record page with his photo and story seem to be down right now. I picked up a copy before my evening class and saw his photo right under the front page banner. He deserved nothing less than to be front page news.
I can't help but write a few words. It's late but your words have made me more sad and more happy at the same time.
That class of kids that you were in, Mox, was very special. Adam did seem to be one of the driving forces and I am glad you have such strong feelings about recognizing those special people that touch our lives.
So many parents of your classmates said how exceptional a group it was. So many caring, loving kids.
The fact that you are such close friends with two of them after all this time says something of this.
At times like this I think all we can do is to send out as much positive energy as we can.
Mom
sorry for your loss. glad to see that you clearly have a wonderful support system, as evidenced by your comments. much love to you...
it's funny, but i think that adam would have really liked the idea all of these anonymous people thinking about him, and sparking goodwill and good karma throughout. he was a total ham (being an actor he couldn't help it) but he also really wanted to make a difference. if you had ever seen him act you would have known that about him. like moxie, i had not seen him for at least ten years, he was just one of those people who you would just pick up with where you had left off. i will miss him, but i'm glad he has been able to spark something positive.
Dear Moxiegrrrl,
My deepest condolences to his family, all his friends, and you. The most wonderful people in our lives are taken so early sometimes. God needs more light, I suppose. I feel deeply for this loss, and all the losses of the wonderful people that come across all our lives.
To Moxie Grrrl:
I'm terribly sorry to hear of your grievous loss. I send you the most heart-felt condolences in the loss of your friend. At the end of it all you'll see him again in the place where time has no meaning.
I had the pleasure of knowing Adam when we were young kids, and even though I hadn't seen him in years I was deeply saddened by the news. He was special.
its so nice to read such lovely things about my uncle Adam. Fortunately I was able to have dinner with him, my brother and my grandfather not too long before the tragedy. Before that I hadn't seen him in years, and was really looking forward to getting to know him better now that I'm an adult. Adam had a sister, two nieces and a nephew who loved him very much... despite the time and distance that kept us apart. He is still in our thoughts as well as his parents Bea and my grandfather Oscar.
Hi Moxie,
My name is Marlene and I am Adam's older sister. Our brother Oscar was tragically killed in a car accident as well 21 years ago.
Thank you for your warm and loving words about Adam. Yes, he was a great guy and a wonderful human being - may he rest in peace. He is loved and missed by us all. My children Desiree, Jorge and Melissa were inspired by Adam to do drama and stage after we went to see him in the play where he was dressed in a hotdog suit (lol) he looked too funny !!!!
Peace
Marlene & Anonymous :)
If you ever pull out his senior yearbook and thumb through to the radio station page (here is it, page 74), look for him in the back row, and I'm the girl standing next to him.
I had no idea about Oscar, I can only imagine it feels incredibly unfair. I'm so, so sorry.
I could go on forever about what a great person Adam was. It sounds so cliche, and I'm sure Adam had plenty of faults like every human being, but he really was very special. A good egg.
I'm glad you stopped by, and I hope others leave Adam's name in the blogosphere.
Peace to you as well.
Hey,
I'm glad you made your post.
I was a friend and collegue of Adam's. We were roomates in Plantation, FL when we were doing Tony n' Tina's Wedding.
This guy was unreal! He was so nice, so charming, fashionable, and so handsome. I just learned of this tonight, so I am still totally reeling.
Who could ever forget his huge smile and loud (but pleasant) voice that boomed across a room when you walked in.
What a great guy, and what a loss to humanity.
ANyway,
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it made me feel better knowing he was in the world
I moved out of NJ about 8 and a half years ago...so I just found out about Adam tonight (Feb. 15th)from a friend still living in Morris County. I was shocked and shaken to hear this news. Adam was in my life a very long time ago. I hadn't seen him in quite a long while unfortunately. The last time was when some other friends and I met up with him (at his new apartment while he was attending the drama academy) in the city on Halloween. Halloween of 1994, to be exact. I think he was a vampire or something. I remember a cape and teeth. LOL I still have a picture of he and I together somewhere which I'm now more determined than ever to find. He was one of the best people I've ever known and that's over the course of my entire life. He was truly good to the depths of his soul and I've thought of him often over the years. I frequently wanted to get back in touch with him, too, but wasn't sure how to reach him. I just hope he knew how close he was to my heart and how he will always remain so. He was there for me at a really difficult time in my life when I felt others had deserted me. He was a precious gift in my life and in the lives of all who knew him. His memory will be kept alive forever.
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